datin' ms. behavin' ~ Fireworks and Friendship

As of late ms. behavin' is in yet another dating quandary. Should she go for the gusto and get it on? Should she play it safe and keep it movin' on the next bloke? What to do...

----- Our chat on Tue, 10/7/07 1:58 PM -----
Asabamon (12:57 PM): hey
ms. behavin' (1:02 PM): hey you.
ms. behavin' (1:03 PM): did I tell you about my latest dating dilemma?
Asabamon (1:04 PM): no. do tell. are you on skype. should i call you?
ms. behavin' (1:04 PM): i'm not yet on skype
ms. behavin' (1:04 PM): maybe i should wait to tell you?
Asabamon (1:04 PM): forget that tell me now.
ms. behavin' (1:05 PM): so i have a very good friend for years, messed around a couple of times years ago, but just friends for many more
ms. behavin' (1:06 PM): recently he moved to BK. and finally opened up his new place with a couple of cook outs last week.
ms. behavin' (1:06 PM): since he moved to BK we hang out all the time. we hung out quite a bit before though too.
ms. behavin' (1:07 PM): so you may be asking, so what's wrong with this guy?
Asabamon (1:07 PM): i'm listening
ms. behavin' (1:08 PM): and i've told myself for the last couple of years...if only he were 2-3 inches taller--he's 5'8"
Asabamon (1:10 PM): ouch. that's a petit guy
ms. behavin' (1:10 PM): yeah, but has great style, great heart and is otherwise hot.
ms. behavin' (1:11 PM): so anyway. since i am closest to him and the new place i was the default co-host in a sense
ms. behavin' (1:12 PM): and i don't know about you, but something about entertaining with someone is a huge turn on--teamwork at its best...
ms. behavin' (1:13 PM): anyway after many drinks and a fun night had by all we succumbed to our own fireworks and messed around (no sex, just passion) on the 4th.
ms. behavin' (1:15 PM): so now, i'm conflicted because we're good. pretty much no issues in how we have interacted since.
ms. behavin' (1:16 PM): but I can't help but hear the voices "I think you all would be good together." echoing from my girlfriends at the party.
ms. behavin' (1:18 PM): I'm thinking leave it alone because there's only one way for this to go if it goes and that's a big committment. you got me.
ms. behavin' (1:18 PM): then on the other side there is a new pursuer on the page.
ms. behavin' (1:19 PM): tall dark and handsome. ghanaian guy up for the"chase"; stepping up the fliritng game. I just don't know him so well yet.
ms. behavin' (1:19 PM): what to do....
Asabamon (1:21 PM): one sec
Asabamon (1:31 PM): stay with the short guy.
Asabamon (1:31 PM): but be prepared for short kids
Asabamon (1:31 PM): something has to be said about the fact that you are good friends.
ms. behavin' (1:36 PM): lol. you are too funny. but the plan for the summer was to be wild and crazy and the tall guy is from ghana doesn't that count for something?
Asabamon (1:37 PM): wild and crazy is cool when you are 20, 21, 22, 23.
ms. behavin' (1:37 PM): and so do you think friend is playing it cool by not saying anything is putting the ball in my court
Asabamon (1:38 PM): not now.
Asabamon (1:38 PM): you are still cute as shit now. at 40 it'll be a different story. maybe i've gotten conservative. i don't know.
Asabamon (1:39 PM): i think you and him should have a vey candid conversation. no ultimatums just to say this is where my head is.
ms. behavin' (1:42 PM): me too. but i haven't had the nerve and like i said its going to be all or nothing.
ms. behavin' (1:42 PM): maybe just a few more dates with mr ghana?
Asabamon (1:43 PM): forget mr ghana? trust me you don't want complications. have a talk with the shortie (lol. get it) first then decide.
Asabamon (1:43 PM): ghana will only be a distraction.
ms. behavin' (1:45 PM): i knew you'd say that. actually you are the only one.
ms. behavin' (1:45 PM): others have said, don't screw up the friendship
Asabamon (1:46 PM): i'm the only smart one.
ms. behavin' (1:46 PM): ;p
Asabamon (1:46 PM): which is why you have a seriously candid talk about what it is you guys are doing.
Asabamon (1:46 PM): would it bother you if he started seeing someone serously?
Asabamon (1:47 PM): would it bother him if you did same?
ms. behavin' (1:47 PM): this is what we should be talking about right
Asabamon (1:48 PM): if you guys are going to remains "friends" then you need to cut out the benefits part and stop blocking so each of you can move on.
ms. behavin' (1:48 PM): at the end of the day i want us both to be happy. i already enjoy his company
Asabamon (1:49 PM): a lot to think about. ultimately, you want to be in love with your friend. if both parties are open and honest with feelings, it's the best thing.
ms. behavin' (1:50 PM): I think I'm still getting used to the physical part
Asabamon (1:51 PM): you crazy. it's 645pm. i'm going home. good luck and big kiss.
Asabamon (1:51 PM): hey your avatar looks just like you. style and all.
Asabamon (1:51 PM): so long.
ms. behavin' (1:58 PM): peace and thanks!